Planning a non-traditional wedding can be both liberating and daunting: liberating because any rules you follow are, generally speaking, your own; daunting for much the same reason. Put it this way, if you choose to do away with a traditional framework, you still need to find one of your own, which may leave you feeling you have a lot of decisions to make.
Remember though, an LGBT wedding is an enormously positive experience, and even the planning of it can itself feel like a big affirmation as you set your own agenda.
Brides, Grooms and Wedding Roles
Okay so gendered roles don’t apply here, in the sense that there isn’t a traditional bride and groom. Think of this as a blank canvas opportunity, because it means your wedding can become truly your occasion.
For example, you don’t have to have maids of honour or a best man – choose your own attendants, and call them whatever you want.
The key thing is to ensure that where a function needs performing – looking after the rings, ushering in the guests etc – that there’s someone nominated to perform it, whoever you decide they should be.
It’s also worth noting that if you’re having your non-traditional wedding filmed by a professional wedding videographer, these roles are clear, so the camera’s pointing in the right places at the right time.
The same goes for those all-important wedding speeches – be clear in advance who will be making them, and when.
What to on Earth to Wear?
Now it might seem simpler for men, where you can pair up in tuxedos or suits, but if you’re making your own rules then what to wear must play a big part. For the bride who doesn’t want to wear a gown there are serious choices to be made, and these might be governed by how far off the beaten track you want your wedding ceremony to travel.
Whatever your arrangements, if you go down the customised rather than the off the shelf route, be sure to leave plenty of time to have outfits approved, tailor-made, fitted and adjusted.
Your Very Own Ceremony
You may face certain constraints on what you want to do depending on the venue you book, so make sure well in advance that your plans and the cultural values of your proposed venue are in line – if you look likely to face an uphill struggle and only reluctant co-operation, it’s definitely the wrong venue for you.
In terms of how things proceed, remember to make a plan and then stick to it – there’s nothing more chaotic than a wedding that’s not been properly scheduled.
In Love Wedding Films are specialists wedding filmmakers covering all kinds of weddings, including the full spectrum of non-traditional weddings. We’re Manchester-based but with a long reach. We’re here to capture your unique wedding memories in vivid, moving pictures.
Talk to us about your LGBT wedding plans, because we’d love to be a part of them.