As a company who have filmed many wedding videos in Manchester, we know that even if you are a very competent public speaker, you are no doubt filled with dread when it comes to doing your best man’s speech at your best friend’s wedding. Being asked to be someone’s best man is a huge honour, but with it comes the task of delivering a memorable speech, to entertain the crowd and pay a heartfelt tribute to the special couple on their big day. The last thing you want to do is stumble over your words, freeze up or ramble on and end up sending everyone to sleep!
But fear not, as a wedding videos company in Manchester, In Love Wedding Films have filmed many speeches from the best man in our time. We have managed to pick up a few tips on what makes a great man’s speech and in this post, we are going to share them with you.
The most important thing to remember is to be yourself. Don’t get too bogged down in giving a formal speech that sounds stuffy and not like you at all. There are some important conventions to remember, (which we will come onto later) but at the end of the day, it is mainly about your friendship with the groom. Don’t force yourself to make a joke if you aren’t known for your sense of humour. However, don’t be overly sentimental if you are the joker of the pack. Stay true to who you are and everyone will love it – whatever you say (as long as it is PG!).
In addition, make sure that you keep the speech relatively short and sweet. This day is not about you, and no-one wants you to ramble on and on… Realistically, most people will begin to lose interest after eight minutes, so as a rule of thumb, keep it to between five and eight minutes and it should be just right. Think about who else might be making a speech – the bride’s dad, the maid of honour, Uncle Bob, etc. The more speeches there are, the shorter yours should be, so that the whole of the reception isn’t taken up by guests listening to people speaking. Also, keep your eye on your audience during your speech – if they start to look restless, then trim it down even more and let them get on with their evening.
Preparation and practice are key! It is always better to have a written speech or, at least, some notes that you have prepared beforehand. Leaving it until the day and hoping that a touch of Dutch courage will inspire you to spout of a few things is the worst idea you could have! You don’t have to read it out verbatim on the day; even just knowing it is there in your pocket will give you more confidence. Read it out aloud a few times before the big day as well. Make sure that you are comfortable with what your speech contains and the length of it, and you will feel prepped and ready for the big day.
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