It’s Christmas and I’m a wedding videographer based in Manchester. What’s the connection, and why am I telling you this?
Christmas can be stressful – the Stress Management Society says that one in 20 of us considers Christmas more stressful than a burglary!
Experience has shown me that weddings too are stressful for many of the same reasons that Christmas is.
So, I’m putting the two together, to show you how preparing for Christmas can offer some useful lessons when planning your wedding.
Planning in Advance for the Big Day
People plan Christmas. They work out where they’re will be spending Christmas Day, who they’ll be spending it with, and what the day will involve in terms of food, drink, gifts and entertainment.
I’m not saying there can’t be a degree of joyful spontaneity at Christmas, but it helps to have planned a framework for it to occur in.
Once you have a plan, it seems much less of a challenge. The same is true of a wedding. At first, it might seem daunting, but once you systematically look at what you need to do, it gets easier.
Where Will It All Happen?
Yes, it can a subject for stress and conflict, where you spend Christmas day, and with whom, but this is something to resolve as early as possible. Once you’ve settled this, however much diplomacy is involved, you can then start planning the rest.
With a wedding, the venue is key. Once you know where you want it, you can start researching and preparing – including choosing your wedding videographer, of course.
With Christmas, this can be a more staggered affair, so you might spread your socialising around, with some of it occurring on Boxing Day, for example.
For your wedding, it’s a little different, being concentrated on a single day. However, you might still have some people at the ceremony and wedding breakfast, but additional guests at an evening celebration.
What both Christmas and a wedding have in common, is that you need to be clear who you’re inviting and how many of them there will be.
What Will You Wear and What’s the Theme?
Yes, there’s a world of difference between a Christmas jumper and a wedding dress, but the principle is the same: it’s one more piece of the puzzle to fit in as part of your preparation.
And there is a question of tone: one person’s Christmas jumper is someone else’s nightmare before Christmas. So, if your celebration has a theme, or mood, clearly convey this to all attending.
Weddings no longer need to be formal affairs, but some still are. Decide on your theme, and be clear about carrying it through.
They matter at Christmas and they matter at weddings, naturally. Everyone wants to get this bit right.
For weddings, chiefly you’re letting others know what you want, but for both occasions the best solution to avoid stress is to be systematic.
Draw up a checklist, and tick off the items you’ve either bought (for Christmas) or ordered from people (for your wedding).
Just because you’re taking an ordered approach doesn’t mean you’re not getting into the spirit of the thing. In the end, it’s worth it if it helps ensure everything works out, and everyone’s happy.
You don’t have to go it alone. Becoming a martyr to your own celebration isn’t much fun, whether it’s Christmas or your wedding day.
Therefore, when support is offered take it; and don’t be reluctant to ask for it. Everyone wants things to go well, because their happiness is invested in it too.
Lessons from Christmas
If you get used to planning your Christmas, it gives you good experience and useful skills when it comes to your wedding. And both events should be about joy, not stress.
Relive Your Wedding Day
My name’s Paul and I’m a Manchester-based wedding videographer. I specialise in filming weddings in Manchester, Lancashire and across the North West. Contact me about your wedding plans, and let me create something special for you, so you can relive your wedding day.